11 Things you can always Learn in Your 20s, 30s, 40s....or even 90s
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“ You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” — Mae West.
What-ifs are the most dangerous questions and shouldn’t be something we ponder about constantly
We always tend to have these questions in mind. It’s good to think what if I succeed but not what if I fail. You should be open to both pros and cons but don’t dominate yourself with negative implications. Rather than thinking what if this doesn’t work try to work on what if it works. In case you are scared about its result then have a plan B for just in case. It’s okay to think about these questions but not stuck with them. Do your work regardless of what will happen. A lot of times we don’t take up the opportunity at hand because we think what if this is not meant for us and later we regret that we didn’t utilize the opportunity. So take that one step and be ready for anything.
Savings can be fruitful and has psychological, as well as financial, benefits.
Being poor, to the point where it dictates all your decisions, is more than tough; it takes a slow, steady toll on your mental state. Having some money in the bank allows you to breathe out. Save, even a tiny bit, as soon as you can. And keep saving. It’ll give you options. If you earn 50 bucks today try to save at least 50% of it for your future. It definitely helps.
Life won’t let you stick tight to your plan.
It’s true. It’s good to lay down plans, it’s great to focus but I haven’t seen a single person who hasn’t had their plans fulfilled with the exact same blueprint there created. It’s good to commit and strive to get better, but also stay open to possibilities and be light on your feet.
Your career is a subset of your life
A great career is a fine thing. But make sure you are a person who doesn’t need a job title to function well or to have a presence in the world. Career is a subset while life is your function. So finally in the end no one will care how much you earned and what you had. No one will care that you worked 80-hour weeks for years and became a very competent manager. They’ll only care if you’re fun to talk to at happy hour. If you were energetic and friendly. Before holding a position at the office or any place be a human who people enjoy talking to.
A friendship doesn’t have to last forever to be good.
Some friendships die young, that’s the truth. People float in and out of our lives all the way through them. Just as it’s important to let bad things go; it’s also okay to let good things go. The goal is to stay open to friendship all of your life because your world is filled with amazing/cool people. I have met many people in my life who at some point have helped, taught me lessons and stood by my side but at some point, there are few people who I had to let go of.
If you persist you will get something. Guaranteed.
It’s true when you work for something with your complete dedication you will find something good eventually. It’s guaranteed. And you will deserve everything that comes out of it. To prove my point, writing these newsletters I wanted to impact and create a difference for at least a few people and recently I did. When I see people sharing thoughts and ideas I write here and discuss with me further on social media it really brings me joy.
You won’t be who you are now (and that’s okay).
If you are exactly the same person in your 20s, 30s or 40’s, it’s kind of sad, because it indicates you haven’t grown at all. Allow yourself to grow up. Allow yourself to grow into yourself. You might just love who you become. We are never the same, there are always modifications and that’s important to live a life. Learning creates a change and it allows you to grow.
Keep your mind stable regardless of the situation
A lot of times we are driven by our emotions in a particular situation. We might be angry at someone, hurt, sad or deeply impacted in a positive or negative way. At this point, it’s important that we dominate our sea of emotions with our infinite powerhouse: MIND. This is applicable to both good and bad. When angry at someone, remember to calm yourself first and then isolate yourself to think about the past experiences with the person. Evaluate your relationship and then finally when you are up with conclusions take action but with a stable mind.
The sense of maturity
A good aspect of maturity is seen in the level to which you are not carried away or found reacting based on your current experience. You should be the same comported and well-behaved person when you have plenty of money in your account and when the balance is at zero, when you are offended and moved to anger and when you are calm, when you are happy and when you are sad. The stability of your senses is required to achieve productivity and relate appropriately with others, never allow the current occurrences around you to affect the way you respond to life.
Ask yourself this question and think about it deeply before you jot down your answer.
“What do I want to be remembered for ?”
Whether or not you are able to proffer an answer to this question is a result of the level to which you have come to terms with what gap you are created to fill. The understanding of this will make you live in a way you and people around you to cherish.
It’s okay to switch
A lot of times our childhood ambitions are not something we end up doing but that doesn’t mean we aren’t supposed to switch our career path. At any age when you feel like this not something you were meant for, it’s more than fine to try to explore and find your greatest job that you are happy with. In this case, before you take a step take time to analyze your financial, professional, personal situation and then decide what’s the best step. Take risks because when you take risks you end up having the benefit of the doubt. As they say, life is about learning from our actions and moving on with the lessons learnt.
Wondering why I am discussing this today?
Simple because I always came across articles and blogs with topics like, “20 things I wish I knew when I was 20” or “Three things no one told me in my thirties” or “Seven things I realized I did wrong during my forties” and so on. I felt that people regret their actions and decisions a lot of times. I feel we only regret when we don’t learn something at the end of the experience. It’s okay to regret but also simultaneously we must learn. Failing at something allows us to reevaluate our actions and scrutinize the entire experience by which we learn lessons that help us in future. So even at any age, it’s okay to make a mistake but the irony lies behind the mistake is to learn. Carefully think by yourself everything in life we do is by learning, at any age we can never stop learning. Hence live while you continue to learn. Pandemic has taught us lessons and these are some lessons I learnt from my experience which today I decided to share with you all.
Best Regards
Nova
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