Right to the point today, let’s begin with this word, “Judgement”. How many times do we judge in a day? It can be a person, a situation or even a thing that we keep passing judgements about. Didn’t quite understand? Let’s make you read some interesting interpretation.
Jackie covered a distance of 6 miles in one hour.
Kayson covered the same distance in one and a half hours.
Which of the two is faster and healthier??
Of course, our answer will be Jackie.
What if we say that Jackie covered this distance on a prepared track while Kayson did it by walking on a sandy path???
Then our answer will be Kayson.
But when we come to know that Jackie is 50 years old while Kayson is 25 years old??
Then our answer will be Jackie again.
But we also come to know that Kayson 's weight is 312 lbs while Jackie weight is 145 lbs.
Again our answer will be Kayson
As we learn more about Kayson and Jackie, our opinions and judgments about who is better will change.
Interesting right? So after reading every sentence we kept changing our judgement. Well, this is the topic today. In life, we are used to getting that right picture when we first meet someone or conclude his/her behaviour after one meeting with the person. Isn’t that true? You might be reading my newsletter for the first time but still, after the end of this edition, you will definitely want to give a judgement about me or my writing. It could be bad or good. Even when I read a few comments, I start to judge people, both in a positive and negative way but mostly towards positive affirmations since I believe in reading the entire book before judging it just by the cover. Get it?
Why shouldn’t we judge someone or something? For one reason you can create a wrong judgement that can last with you forever. Let me explain to you in terms of human psychological mindset, generally, when we come to conclusion about someone or something just after a meet we may turn out to be right or wrong but in most case for me at least I was wrong. Eventually, what happens I convey my mind that this person I have met is what I think of him/her and not what the true personality of the person. So our mind gets this message and for example, if I felt that the girl I have just met is obnoxious, no matter what in the future when I see her I will first get this feeling of her obnoxious character even though she might be as pleasant as the sea to others. Get it? We create a picture and blueprint it in our mind which in turn never allows us to look with openness in a situation. So that’s what judging people can do. You can lose some good friends and or make some really bad relations. The interpretation I discussed earlier want to hear the end of it? Let’s read it.
The reality of life is similar to this story. We form opinions very superficially and hastily, due to which we are not able to do justice to ourselves and others.
Opportunities vary.
Life is different.
Resources differ.
Problems change.
Solutions are different.
Therefore the excellence of life is not in comparing with anyone but in testing oneself.
You are the best. Stay as you are and keep trying your best according to your circumstances. Don’t fall into the trap of judgement.
Stay healthy, stay cool, stay satisfied, keep smiling, keep laughing, keep on serving society and the country.
So apparently a lot of times judging by appearance, one short talk, or even approaching someone with influenced opinions may not be the right choice. I am an expert in this, when I changed eleven schools in my academic journey every time I entered the class and spoke to someone on the first day, I came to a conclusion that this girl is not meant to be my friend, we are completely opposite, and she seems to be the famous girl in the class who is not so easy to be friends with but surprisingly by the time I leave the school travelling to a new state, guess what that first girl I met became my best friend and we are still in touch after so many years. Seems strange or usual, I will leave that for you to decide. You also might have experienced such situations in life, think for some time. Maybe a person or a situation that you thought is like something but turned out to be completely different.
First impressions are fun but not static. The point I am trying to make is situations and people may turn out to be completely different to what we usually might conclude it to be. So it’s important to conclude but not just after a single chat or one long meeting. Give time to explore and understand. That’s best for you and your surroundings. It’s very hard not to judge, I even now struggle sometimes but still, I know the reality is ‘not to judge’. So my challenge to you is next time you meet someone new or come across a completely new situation try not to conclude it immediately, make possible perceptions but not conclusions, and see what changes this time. I am sure you will experience something new. You can start this by just reading this edition, try not to judge me or my newsletter if you are reading this for the first time, check out my other editions and then feel free to drop in an email to me sharing your experience at gkhop1729@gmail.com
It is true that there is a deep inside in everything and every person and it’s not very easy to reach that zone so it’s better not to conclude things that still have a possibility to be different than what we think. Finally, the quote we learnt in childhood, Never judge a book by its cover and I quote it as, “Never conclude something just after one glance, be it people or situation they are not completely transparent, there is always a deep inside that we may be unaware of”
So what’s finally that you learned today, no matter how much your mind influences you to come to a conclusion about someone or something try to resist it and wait before you jump to conclusions. This can create a lot of difference.
See you next week, bye for now! :-)
Disclaimer: All the thoughts and ideas discussed are exclusively the author’s individual thoughts and do not represent any association/foundation/individuals the author is related to. Anything that may have hurt the sentiments of any group or groups of individuals is inadvertent and without malice. The author at no point means to demonize or insult any religion, practice, gathering, or individuals.